The Paradigm of I'm too Fat!

So, this happened.

I was speaking to a fellow personal trainer who had just taken one of my yoga classes. He was feeling good and relaxed and is a great friend of mine.

As this individual was leaving my gym, I was telling him about some business details and how we could work together, and suddenly, a paradigm popped up! He says to me, “I just need to get ripped, then I will be able to get the clients.” (Just in case you don’t know, ripped means - lifting heavy weights, eating really lean, and getting your body fat percentage, for a man, around 7-10%.)

I was on that one like a puma!!

I said to him, “Why do you feel like you need to get ripped before you can train?” And he proclaims to me, “Because I need to practice what I preach and live what I teach.”

So, I looked at him and said with no hesitation, “Look at me - I am not ripped.” He said, “No - but you are calm.”

I pointed to my chest and said, probably a little less calmly, “I am an all-out personal trainer; I have been doing this for 23 years, and I have a lot of knowledge in this field.”

To which he replied, “Yes, that’s true.”

I mean, what is he going to say? He just told me subconsciously he thinks I am too fat to be a personal trainer. Don’t worry, I’m not offended; he’s just brainwashed with the fitness and nutrition paradigms.

I didn’t want to leave him in a state of resistance, so we chatted and dug into emotions that were not being addressed, beginning the process of healing the paradigm that he needs to be “better” than he is. 100% NOT TRUE.

Some of the most painful things we as humans do to ourselves is hold onto lies and spend our lives thinking they are true when they aren’t. So many millions of people look into the mirror and say, “I’m too fat,” it makes them sad, disgusted, or depressed, or maybe all 3, and they rinse and repeat that thought process again and again. Why?

The aforementioned thought is believing in a fitness paradigm that is not true and is painful.

There is no such thing as being too fat!

You are perfect just as you are!

You are in the perfect body to learn the things that you need to learn in this life.

Release systemic lies and have compassion for yourself. You are divinity. You are special. truly.

You are the only one that can do the things you were born here to do.

It’s a process to overcome this kind of thinking. The reversal of these paradigms requires work, so I wanted to give you a couple of tools that may help your process. I will use the previous paradigm. The first is the saying, “UP UNTIL NOW, I believed I was less than perfect because of my weight, BUT NOW, I see and understand how amazing and beautiful this body has been to me.”

You can even push your hand to the side, pushing the thought away, as you say, “UP UNTIL NOW, I believed... Next, make a power move; make a fist or place your hand over your heart, and say, “BUT NOW I understand how amazing and beautiful this body has been to me.

You can change to a happier state, and you can love yourself. Also, let me clarify: living in paradigms is a part of life; there is no shame in it. It’s what we were taught or modeled, and it was natural to carry these thought processes on. However, life is much more resonant once you get to the other side of these belief systems. 😊

Good people believe lies; it’s pretty much inescapable. But if we recognize them, put them in their place, and move on, we’re good!

If you are thinking, "I'll believe it when I lose the weight." or "All of this may be true, but I am so sad about my weight." Or any sort of negative thought towards yourself. Heal Your Health would love to help you on your journey.

laura@healyour.health

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